Ok let’s see... What have I accomplished this month?? Hmmmm...
Even though this year has been quite short...October has been very long… I have made so many new friends, rekindled lost relationships and lost a few…
On the topic of loosing relationships, a very good friend comes to mind…
I once had this very close friend, let’s call her Anna… We attended the same secondary school in Nija and have been friends ever since. Funny enough, I actually thought she was very annoying in school… She was one of those girls that you just hate to love… She was soooo annoyingly funny… She always came up with all the razz jokes that eventually became part of our high school history…
Anyway fast-forward to roughly 4 - 5 years after school; we were still very good friends… I had completed university and was working. She was in her final year in a university outside
Anna had this wonderful boyfriend who eventually became a psycho due to weed over-indulgence and she had to break up with him. It was a really hard experience for her, but I was there for her through it all. The thing is the guy was perfect for her in everyway, except for the fact that he is Igbo and she is Yoruba and their parents would have given them an extremely hard time. On top of all that, he then decided to become a crack head. They initially had the sort of relationship everyone would envy, but I guess they were not meant to be.
It was my birthday and I decided to have a party at a Thai restaurant, somewhere in central. Everyone who mattered to me was there. Muffin’s sister came with a very good friend of hers… Let’s call him Soji… Anyway, Soji and Anna hit it off. I was actually very happy for her, that she had met someone she liked again, till I found out that Soji was not really into her and he told Muffin’s sister everything that happened between them, even all the intricate (dirty) details. Things Anna had not even told me… Anyway this was the beginning of the end of our friendship, because she told Soji, who she had only known for 2 weeks all sort of lies about me…
How did I find out?
Muffin had been in Nija for a couple of months before my birthday, we started talking again before my birthday, so he came to the restaurant (late I might add…) Remember the 419, nice, God-fearing brother I mentioned earlier… well he was also there and was all over me, however, nothing was going on between us, we were just friends. But Muffin did not know this, he went mad at the sight of another man all over me and decided to spark for me, and leave. Anyway at this stage, it was obvious muffin and I still had intense feelings for each other.
Anna knew this, and a part of me felt she did not want muffin and I to get back with each other. She even went as far as telling me that muffin was looking at her ass at my birthday. She did say it playfully, but it hurt. Anyway, I knew she was joking, so I let it go.
One day, muffin’s sister asks me over to their place, and muffin starts to scream at me. I could see the intense fury in his eyes. He said all sorts of things I had no idea about... It was horrible… The love of my life called me all sorts of names… I had no room to explain anything… I was heart broken and confused. So the investigation started… To cut the long story short, it eventually turned out that Anna, my beloved friend, who I loved so much and would share every part of myself with, had been telling Soji and a few other people horrible things about me… I couldn’t believe it… I wondered why… No matter how hard I tried, I could not justify why she had done such a horrible thing… Talk about a friend you have had for years in a very horrible way to some nonentity, that did not even give a shit about her, she had only known for 2 weeks. I really do not want to go into the details of what had been said, but it was terrible… As weeks passed, it even became worse, because Muffin and I started talking again and he broke everything down to me… I had lost a friend and I had no idea why… but the good thing is, the event brought Muffin and I closer together and eventually back into our relationship…
To this day, I still have no idea why Anna did such a thing but the fact is that it happened. It has been about a year since and I have completely forgiven her, but I am still so sad when I think about it. For the first time since it happened, Muffin and I saw her at a mutual friend’s party last weekend… It was nice to see her again, but my heart really sank. I really wish she did not do those things, but then again, maybe we just were not meant to be… I lost a friend and gained a lover…
Anyway it’s Friday… Yay… I’m really happy because I get to see Muffin tonight and for the whole weekend… I just want to feel him kiss my cheeks… I really love it when he does that, because it says soooo much to me… “We have been through a whole load of drama but we are still together and I love you more each day”
4 comments:
welcome to a world of madness...brb!!!
Thanks Naijababe... I really like your blog by the way... very sweet...
Aww..wow that musta hurt so bad..i've been betrayed by lots of friends so now im just content with havin just one or two close friends n my best friend who happens to be male(hes also a blogger, chari)..female friends cud be real bitches at times..
Buttercup... Thats so true... Shouldn't girls stick up for one another? Its sad that we are always looking for ways to pull each other down...
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